Episode 18

Episode #18: Critical Online Safety and Security Conversations to Have with Your Kids | Alana and Dean Stott

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Despite the many advancements that technology has provided, parenting in a digital driven world leaves our kids vulnerable to the risks and dangers that come along with it. In this episode, Kelly and Doug speak with Alana and Dean Stott, a multi-hyphenate power couple committed to making the world a better place. Teaching children’s cyber-safety is one of the many causes near and dear to their hearts, and one they’ve become experts in since growing their own family. Together they discuss why shielding your kids from the world isn’t the best way to keep them safe, how building a relationship with your child is more impactful than any safety app you can find online, and so much more. 

Other topics we discussed:

  • The importance of putting your relationship with your kids first
  • Encouraging your kids to make mistakes and make their own decisions
  • The consequences of not educating your kids
  • Why apps aren’t as powerful as words
  • How getting curious with your kids can lead to impactful conversations 
  • How safety and security leads to confidence 
  • Understanding your child’s fight or flight type

Alana Stott is an author, producer, anti-human trafficking consultant, publisher, security specialist, philanthropist and entrepreneur. Her husband Dean Stott is a former British Special Forces operator, two-time world record breaking cyclist, global security expert, adventurer, philanthropist, author, and international speaker. 

Connect with Alana and Dean:

Website: https://alanastott.com & https://www.deanstott.com

Twitter: @alanastott & @DeanStottSBS

IG@alanastott & @deanstott

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alana-stott-mbe-194493aa/ & https://www.linkedin.com/in/dean-stott-24725880/

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 17

Episode 17

Episode #17: The Misconceptions of Violence and Self-Defense with Wim Demeere

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Depictions of self-defense and violence in TV and film naturally give us a sense of safety and reassurance that the bad guy will lose and that you should always take a criminal head on. Unfortunately, the theatrics of it all have given men (and women) a false look at self-defense. In this week’s episode, Kelly and Doug speak with martial arts and self-defense expert, Wim Demeere, and reference Wim’s widely-shared self defense blog post Self-defense tips for men. Together they discuss the complexities behind self-defense including: taking ownership over your actions, the importance of leaving your ego at the door, and de-escalating tense situations before violence occurs. 

For more of Wim’s instructional self-defense content, check out his Patreon site, updated monthly. There are over a thousand posts and hundreds of videos as he’s been doing this for over five years now. There is something at a price point for everybody and you can try it for free for a week.

Other topics we discussed:

  • Negative effects of romanticism of violence in TV and film
  • How to not let your ego affect your decisions in conflict
  • Understanding the distinctions between social and criminal violence
  • Defining your mission before conflict ever arises
  • Deescalation tactics for when a conflict occurs 
  • The importance of self-awareness and ownership in conflict
  • How to face threats from other individuals (Peyton Quinn’s Rules)
  • Why a face-saving exit in conflict isn’t the safest option
  • The Highway of Violence

Wim Demeere has almost 40 years of training in several martial arts and self-defense systems: Kung Fu, Tai Chi Chuan, Sanshou, muay Thai, MMA, etc. 

He has been a full-time personal trainer since 1994, has occasionally worked as a bouncer, and in his words, he had a non-eventful military service. Wim has been a national champion Quinda multiple times, and won a bronze medal at 1993 Wushu World Championships Sanshou (-90Kg). Wim has shared his knowledge with thousands of people as the author of numerous instructional books, self-defense videos, and his podcast  titled, Wim Demeere’s Podcast. He is the owner and writer of one of the oldest martial arts and self-defense blogs, Wimsblog.com.

Connect with Wim:

Website: https://wimsblog.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ptccm 

IG@wimdemeere 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WimDemeerePage

Check out the blog post referenced in this video: https://wimsblog.com/2013/04/self-defense-tips-for-men/ 

 Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

 Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 16

Episode #16: Assault Prevention, Creating Boundaries, and Living Without Limits | Nicole Snell

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Trying to find a woman who has not found themselves in a dangerous or unwarranted encounter is harder than finding someone who has. That is one of the many reasons this episode with Nicole Snell, an outdoor-loving, self-defense expert, is so crucial. Alongside Kelly and Doug, Nicole discusses what it means to hone your intuition and assess or de-escalate potential threats in any situation. Nicole also shares her thoughts around the importance of situational awareness, establishing boundaries, and the belief that all women and girls should live without limits despite perceived danger. 

 Other topics we discussed:

  • Fear as a tool, not an enemy
  • The benefits of developing a toolkit versus just ‘safety tips’ for personal safety
  • Assessing Nicole’s personal self-defense encounters and how she chose to react
  • How to establish boundaries when approached or caught off-guard in public
  • Criticism that women face in the aftermath of negative situations
  • Outdoor defense and safety
  • Feeling empowered to live without limitations

 Nicole Snell is an award winning international speaker, trainer, and self-defense expert specializing in sexual assault prevention education, gender-based violence prevention, and boundaries. Despite her successful 12-year career in TV, she always felt a pull to give back to women. Through connections she developed partnering with a women’s self-defense group she worked with in college, Nicole was introduced to Girls Fight Back. She is now the CEO of Girls Fight Back, Founder of Outdoor Defense, and Lead Instructor with both IMPACT Personal Safety and IMPACT Global. Nicole speaks to gender inclusive groups at colleges, high schools, the US Military, Fortune 500 companies, corporations, outdoor groups, and more both domestically and abroad.  She is an NACP Credentialed Victim Advocate and a credentialed Empowerment Self-Defense Professional. Her programs are evidence-based, trauma-informed, interactive, and inclusive. Nicole believes that everyone has the right to walk through the world feeling safe, powerful and confident.

 

Connect with Nicole:

 Website: Nicolesnell.com

Girls Fight Back: Girlsfightback.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/nicolesnelloutdoordefense

IG: @adventuresofnik & @girlsfightback 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/girlsfightback

Twitter: @girlsfightback

Check out the IG posts mentioned in this episode:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CqblSQtLhl4/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CurXz-OAxhM/

Nicole’s Virtual Class with Backcountry Women: https://backcountrywomen.com/event-5210807

August 30th, 2023

$65 for members, $75 for non-members

Note: The live event will be recorded and everyone who registers will have one week to watch the recording.

 

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

 Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 15

Episode #15: Human Trafficking in a Modern, Tech-Driven World

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It happens everywhere throughout the world, and touches the lives of billions someway, somehow.  In this episode, Kelly and Doug speak with Kara Smith, an expert committed to the pursuit of hunting criminals worldwide.  Learn with us about the myths and lies surrounding human trafficking, how to protect your kids from online attackers, and all about love bombing and security theater.

To report a potential human trafficking situation, or to receive personal help, call the Human Trafficking hotline: 1-888-373-7888

Kara shares stories on the various ways kids and adults alike end up trafficked, and shares ways to help ensure it never happens to you or your loved ones.  

Other topics we covered:

  • The domestic sex trafficking industry in the United States
  • How platforms like OnlyFans can be used by sex traffickers
  • The business world of human trafficking
  • How law enforcement is trained to deal with trafficking
  • All the places you might accidentally be perpetuating trafficking on the internet
  • The concept of Security Theater
  • Cybersecurity and safety with kids
  • What is love bombing and why is it a red flag?
  • How to talk to your kids about internet safety 
  • How to get your kids to talk to you about who they meet online

Kara Smith began her career as an intelligence analyst in the United States Air Force supporting critical missions spearheaded by the National Security Agency deploying to both Iraq and Afghanistan. Later she continued her intelligence career working with a specialized counter-terrorism unit within the FBI before she was recruited by DeliverFund a non-profit that combats human trafficking where she worked side-by-side with law enforcement and survivors as the former Chief of Analytics where she guided the organization’s strategic analysis and technological development that provided analysts, law enforcement, and private industry with the most up-to-date practices, methodologies, and tools in the fight against human trafficking. Her unique analytical capabilities and experience in combating counter-terrorism and human trafficking led her to open her own consulting firm where she provides expertise and guidance to her clients in the fields of, counter-human trafficking, intelligence, investigation methodology, curriculum development, and child safety. 

During her spare time, Kara is known to disappear off the grid, opting for camping and hiking trips in areas without cellular coverage, far from the bustling pace of the modern world.

Connect with Kara:

Polaris Project: https://polarisproject.org/ 

Website: https://karasmithconsulting.com/ 

IG: @kara_the_huntress

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/therealkarasmith/

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 17

Episode 14

Episode #14: Don’t Travel Again Before You Hear These CRITICAL Personal Safety Tips

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Have you ever thought to ask a hotel check-in clerk NOT to tell you your room number out loud?  Did you know Sudafed is an illegal drug in Japan that will get you major jail time?  Join Kelly, Doug, and Ron Tetreau this week as they discuss top travel safety tips to keep you safe whether you’re a solo traveler or have a family or friends to protect.  This one is chock full of specific tips to keep you and your data safe and secure throughout the entire trip.

Scroll down to download the newly released “Traveler Safety Guide: with Security Tips for Travelers”!


Ron shares stories of how he, his friends, and colleagues keep safe while traveling, as well as how he prepared his daughter for overseas solo travel.  He criticizes some commonly recommended hotel safety advice, and discusses alternative options with Kelly and Doug.

Don’t miss out on advice on:

  • Hotel door safety (including why/when not to bar yourself in)
  • Be careful where you charge your electronics
  • Situational awareness in unfamiliar environments and cultures
  • Hotel check-in safety practices
  • The Rule of Stupids while traveling
  • Considerations of dress when traveling
  • The Gray Man Theory

Ron Tetreau is a retired police Detective from the City of Woonsocket, Rhode Island. Serving 24 years as a Law Enforcement Officer and is also a 38-year veteran of both the United States Air Force and the United States Army, he is currently a MSG in the US Army Reserves. He is a graduate of Roger Williams University holding a BS Degree in Criminal Justice and is currently pursuing a graduate degree in Terrorism and Counter Terrorism Studies. As a police officer, he served on the SWAT Team for more than 16 years as the Training Coordinator as well as serving as both an Assault Team Leader and Sniper Team Leader participating and leading operations including Barricaded Subjects, High Risk Warrants, Drug Interdiction Operations. He was also a member of the State of Rhode Island Homeland Security Weapons of Mass Destruction Team serving on the Assault Element. He was a guest instructor at the FBI Law Enforcement Sniper School and served as a liaison to Joint Special Operations Command as a Guest Instructor at the FBI Sniper School. As a member of the 1996 Summer Olympics Security Team he was assigned to the Personal Security Detail at the Soccer Venue at the University of Georgia.

Connect with Ron:

Website: http://asymmetrictraining.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/asymmetrictraining/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ron-tetreau-b25ab015/

Email: info@asymmetrictraining.com

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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