Episode #17: The Misconceptions of Violence and Self-Defense with Wim Demeere
Depictions of self-defense and violence in TV and film naturally give us a sense of safety and reassurance that the bad guy will lose and that you should always take a criminal head on. Unfortunately, the theatrics of it all have given men (and women) a false look at self-defense. In this week’s episode, Kelly and Doug speak with martial arts and self-defense expert, Wim Demeere, and reference Wim’s widely-shared self defense blog post Self-defense tips for men. Together they discuss the complexities behind self-defense including: taking ownership over your actions, the importance of leaving your ego at the door, and de-escalating tense situations before violence occurs.
For more of Wim’s instructional self-defense content, check out his Patreon site, updated monthly. There are over a thousand posts and hundreds of videos as he’s been doing this for over five years now. There is something at a price point for everybody and you can try it for free for a week.
Other topics we discussed:
- Negative effects of romanticism of violence in TV and film
- How to not let your ego affect your decisions in conflict
- Understanding the distinctions between social and criminal violence
- Defining your mission before conflict ever arises
- Deescalation tactics for when a conflict occurs
- The importance of self-awareness and ownership in conflict
- How to face threats from other individuals (Peyton Quinn’s Rules)
- Why a face-saving exit in conflict isn’t the safest option
- The Highway of Violence
Wim Demeere has almost 40 years of training in several martial arts and self-defense systems: Kung Fu, Tai Chi Chuan, Sanshou, muay Thai, MMA, etc.
He has been a full-time personal trainer since 1994, has occasionally worked as a bouncer, and in his words, he had a non-eventful military service. Wim has been a national champion Quinda multiple times, and won a bronze medal at 1993 Wushu World Championships Sanshou (-90Kg). Wim has shared his knowledge with thousands of people as the author of numerous instructional books, self-defense videos, and his podcast titled, Wim Demeere’s Podcast. He is the owner and writer of one of the oldest martial arts and self-defense blogs, Wimsblog.com.
Connect with Wim:
Check out the blog post referenced in this video: https://wimsblog.com/2013/04/self-defense-tips-for-men/
Connect with Doug and Kelly:
Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.
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