Which self-defense tool is right for you?
It depends.
One thing I know for sure, it’s not always what someone else says you should carry.
If you look at the online reviews of most self-defense tools, they are written by men who purchased the tool for themselves or for a female in their life they care about. That female could be their wife, sister, mother, daughter, or co-worker. I believe these men had the BEST intention when they purchased the tool as a gift. They cared about that person in their life, and they wanted to give them a gift that would keep them safe from harm.
I appreciate men wanting to do everything they can to help the women increase their personal safety by purchasing a tool as a gift. The intentions are pure, but the gesture comes off as condescending and feels like mansplaining. This is not me hating on the good guys out there, it’s giving the female perspective.
It would be like my husband buying me a new vacuum because I want a cleaner floor, without asking for my input. If I’m the one using the vacuum, let me pick it out. (and really guys-NEVER buy a vacuum as a present-K?)
Now that we’ve covered that subject, what features do you need to consider in a tool that will be best for you?
It depends.
I’m going to break down different points to consider on the tools I carry in the Diamond Arrow Group online store.
(Side note: I’ve been sent other tools to test & evaluate that are not on my site yet. If you’re interested in becoming a DAG product tester, make sure you’re on our VIP email list!)
- J5 Tactical V1 Pro Flashlight
-This small but mighty flashlight fits in your cute clutch purse on a night out, as well as the palm of your hand while walking to and from your vehicle. Plus, it comes in a variety of colors, not just black.
-A powerful 300 lumens will temporarily blind a person, buying you time to get to safety if necessary. If they unintentionally got in your space, their full sight will return soon enough and hopefully they learned a valuable lesson. (when you tell them to get out of your space, they best listen)
-Uses AA batteries (let’s be real, if a tool requires a special battery, it’s not going to get replaced quickly).
-Cleared for travel. My flashlight has traveled in my carry-on bag on airplanes across oceans, gone into major sporting events, and attended concerts with me.
-It’s a flashlight. It helps you see your surroundings at night, can shine into dark shadows, and the car parked next to yours.
-The flashlight is made of air-craft grade aluminum (translation=very sturdy) and the beveled-edge is a great scraping (DNA collection) and blunt-force tool if an attacker gets in your space.
-Using the flashlight at night to illuminate your path is also a prevention action. If an attacker is waiting for a potential victim, they will see the flashlight beam first. Who typically has a flashlight at night? Law enforcement and security personnel. The attacker is not going to stick around to find out who’s at the other end of that light.
-Low price point and a lifetime warranty.
-The only thing I can say in regard to the “not helpful” column is that it’s not going to cause debilitating damage to an attacker. In that situation, you’re going to have to go after their eyeballs.
- Mace Spray-Sport
-I specifically carry the Sport version for the hand strap. This tool is what I carry when I’m out walking/running in a more rural or less populated area. Having it strapped to my hand and ready to deploy in seconds, without needing to hold on to it, is a huge advantage.
-Having it strapped to my hand let’s an attacker watching me see that I have a tool that will cause excruciating pain if they pick me as their target.
-The spray is a gel consistency and sprays up to 12 ft. in a single stream pattern. I don’t need to worry about a mist spray that will blow in my own face if the wind is blowing the wrong direction.
-The spray has UV dye. When I spray an attacker, I am “painting” them with an invisible ink that will light up under a UV light. This will help with law enforcement identification.
-The spray is less-lethal but very painful and debilitating for a length of time that gives me a great head start on getting to safety.
-The added bonus in purchasing a Mace Spray from DAG? We include a FREE water trainer with every spray purchase so you can practice shooting the spray and targeting. In fact, I highly recommend purchasing two sprays so you get two water trainers and have a water fight with a friend. Using play to get comfortable with using it makes learning fun and the knowledge will stick with you longer.
-All sprays have an expiration date! Mace specifically prints this date on all their products. You need to replace your spray every few years, even if you’ve never used it.
-Having Mace spray in your purse will not do you any good if you’re attacked. You need to have it in your hand, not at the bottom of your purse. My suggestion: before exiting the building or your vehicle, put the spray in your hand. When you reach your destination and are safe, you can put it back in your purse.
-Playing around with the actual spray and not being respectful of the tool can get an innocent person a face full of “for the love of all things holy make it stop” temporary pain. They will survive, but the pain will last longer than their list of cuss words.
-Not always travel safe. I forgot to move my Mace from my handbag to my checked luggage on a trip and had it confiscated by TSA. The agent was so apologetic because he thought all women should carry Mace, but he couldn’t let me get on the plane with it.
-Depending on your state’s self-defense laws, you need to be able to articulate WHY you used this tool to defend yourself.
- Mace Keychain Alarm
-These personal alarms have an ear-piercing sound that activates at the push of a button.
-When walking to your car, having your keys in your hand keeps this alarm handy. I’m not talking about keys between your fingers (that’s a different conversation), I’m talking about being able to quickly get into your vehicle vs. standing next to a locked vehicle while digging for your keys.
-If you wear a lanyard, the keychain alarm can easily clip to it and acts as a visual deterrent to a potential attacker.
-The sound of the alarm is different than a car alarm so people will naturally be more curious as to where the sound is coming from and start looking around.
-This is a tool that can travel with you anywhere.
-This is a tool that you can take on your lunch break walks around your building.
-The alarm has a whistle feature on the bottom.
-This is a tool that will do you absolutely no good if you’re in a rural and less populated area.
-It’s great at waking up sleepy people in the company meeting. (whoops, sorry to accidentally push my obnoxiously loud alarm) Just sayin’.
-If you don’t have this tool in your hand or within easy reach when you need it, it will do you no good.
-In a high-intensity situation where you experience an adrenaline spike, you lose fine motor skills. Pushing the small button on the back may be difficult if you haven’t practice doing so. This is where the whistle feature may come in handy AND help you remember to breathe.
-If the alarm is accidentally activated, it’s not going to hurt anyone.
- Mace Personal Clip Alarm
-See the above points under the Mace keychain alarm.
-The difference of this alarm that I really like as a woman, is it clips easily to clothing without causing damage. You can clip this to yoga pants, business attire, or whatever you’re wearing for the day. Women’s clothing is notorious for not having pockets. This clip alarm is a great work around.
-It’s activated by simply pulling the alarm off your clothing item. The alarm sounds when the clip end touches the back of the alarm.
-This is a tool that will do you absolutely no good if you’re in a rural and less populated area.
-This tool will not help you at the bottom of your purse. Heck-clip it to the side of your purse if you don’t want it on your clothing!
-If the alarm is accidentally activated, it’s not going to hurt anyone.
- NPE Stabby Tools/Firearms
-NPE stands for “non-permissive environments” which is a fancy acronym for “no weapons allowed.”
You may be wondering why I don’t have these tools listed on my website. Great question. Before I sell or promote a tool that can cause damage to another human, I am going to ask you many questions. I don’t believe in carrying a tool that can severely debilitate or cause death in another human, simply because it makes you feel cool. If you have a specific threat that you want to defend yourself against, I’m here to help guide you through the questions you need to take into consideration.
That includes:
-emotional, mental, and physical planning, preparing, and practice
-legal, ethical, and moral considerations
-a discussion around aftermath and the realities you will face
-a referral to an expert on the specific tool you are considering
Deciding to carry a self-defense tool is a personal choice and is dependent on your lifestyle. No one should be telling you which tool to carry, without asking for your input. That’s what makes the Diamond Arrow Group different than the typical self-defense tool retailer.
I’m not here to sell you something, I’m here to empower you to be responsible for your personal safety in a way that works best for you.
“Don’t base your decisions on the advice of those who don’t have to deal with the results.”
-Anonymous
