Episode 20

Episode #20: Online Dating Safety: Protecting Your Heart and Wallet with Jane Mason

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Do you or someone you know ever dabbled in the world of online dating, hoping to find love or companionship? In a digital age where connection seems just a swipe away, the risks associated with online dating have increased significantly. This episode dives deep into the world of online dating, scams, and how you can safeguard yourself or your loved ones from heartbreak and financial loss.

Kelly and Doug welcome Jane Mason, a former FBI Special Agent who brings her extensive knowledge of criminal psychology and fraud investigations into the realm of online dating. They uncover the truth about common romance scams, warning signs to look out for, and share essential tips to protect yourself and those close to you. While exploring the world of online dating, the conversation takes a profound turn, covering critical topics such as personal information safety, drink spiking, and the power of self-prioritization. Jane’s insights provide invaluable guidance for anyone entering the online dating landscape.

You’ll learn:

  • How to safeguard your personal information when venturing into the world of online dating.
  • How to code words for discreetly asking for help during in-person meetings.
  • Recognizing the telltale signs of drink spiking and the immediate actions to take for your safety.
  • The art of projecting a strong, confident presence to reduce the likelihood of becoming a target.
  • The psychology behind online scams and catfishing.
  • Conducting comprehensive research before engaging with potential dates.
  • The potential future of dating apps and how regulation may affect their operation.
  • The interplay of behavior in the dating world and how to focus on these behaviors to ensure safety.
  • Common online dating scams and red flags to watch out for.

Jane Mason is a former FBI Special Agent with a wealth of experience in criminal psychology and fraud investigations. Throughout her career, she has dedicated herself to unraveling complex cases and understanding the motivations behind criminals’ actions. Her unique insights have been instrumental in numerous cases, and she is known for her contributions to the field of criminal justice.  She has received recognition for her work in the FBI and her contributions to public awareness of safety and fraud prevention in various online platforms. Her upcoming “Dating Safety Bootcamp” showcases her commitment to helping individuals navigate the world of online dating safely and confidently. Jane’s expertise, career accomplishments, and dedication to educating the public make her a trusted source in the realm of online safety and security.

Connect with Jane:

Website: https://www.janexfbi.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janexfbi/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janexfbi

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janexfbi/

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.     

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Episode 16

Episode 16

Episode #16: Assault Prevention, Creating Boundaries, and Living Without Limits | Nicole Snell

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Trying to find a woman who has not found themselves in a dangerous or unwarranted encounter is harder than finding someone who has. That is one of the many reasons this episode with Nicole Snell, an outdoor-loving, self-defense expert, is so crucial. Alongside Kelly and Doug, Nicole discusses what it means to hone your intuition and assess or de-escalate potential threats in any situation. Nicole also shares her thoughts around the importance of situational awareness, establishing boundaries, and the belief that all women and girls should live without limits despite perceived danger. 

 Other topics we discussed:

  • Fear as a tool, not an enemy
  • The benefits of developing a toolkit versus just ‘safety tips’ for personal safety
  • Assessing Nicole’s personal self-defense encounters and how she chose to react
  • How to establish boundaries when approached or caught off-guard in public
  • Criticism that women face in the aftermath of negative situations
  • Outdoor defense and safety
  • Feeling empowered to live without limitations

 Nicole Snell is an award winning international speaker, trainer, and self-defense expert specializing in sexual assault prevention education, gender-based violence prevention, and boundaries. Despite her successful 12-year career in TV, she always felt a pull to give back to women. Through connections she developed partnering with a women’s self-defense group she worked with in college, Nicole was introduced to Girls Fight Back. She is now the CEO of Girls Fight Back, Founder of Outdoor Defense, and Lead Instructor with both IMPACT Personal Safety and IMPACT Global. Nicole speaks to gender inclusive groups at colleges, high schools, the US Military, Fortune 500 companies, corporations, outdoor groups, and more both domestically and abroad.  She is an NACP Credentialed Victim Advocate and a credentialed Empowerment Self-Defense Professional. Her programs are evidence-based, trauma-informed, interactive, and inclusive. Nicole believes that everyone has the right to walk through the world feeling safe, powerful and confident.

 

Connect with Nicole:

 Website: Nicolesnell.com

Girls Fight Back: Girlsfightback.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/nicolesnelloutdoordefense

IG: @adventuresofnik & @girlsfightback 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/girlsfightback

Twitter: @girlsfightback

Check out the IG posts mentioned in this episode:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CqblSQtLhl4/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CurXz-OAxhM/

Nicole’s Virtual Class with Backcountry Women: https://backcountrywomen.com/event-5210807

August 30th, 2023

$65 for members, $75 for non-members

Note: The live event will be recorded and everyone who registers will have one week to watch the recording.

 

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

 Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

 Please click ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’ on your favorite podcast platform, and we’d love to hear what you think is the best piece of advice you’ve heard on the podcast to-date in a Review on your podcast platform!

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Episode 16

Episode 9

Episode #9: How to Recognize and React to Stalking Behaviors

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Being stalked is no joke, and in this episode Kelly and Doug dig into controversial topics related to stalking.  What exactly constitutes stalking?  Are there differences in how men and women should and do react to stalking?  How do you stop stalking behavior once you’ve recognized it?  What resources are available to you if you’re unsure you’re being stalked but feel uncomfortable?  And what is the role of intent when talking about stalking behavior?

Scroll down for this week’s Episode Key.  You’ll find all of the mentioned links, articles, daily habits, and other tips and tricks in there. 

It is far too common an occurrence to feel that “off” feeling in your gut or suspect someone might be following you on the streets or maybe stalking you online, but also feel uncomfortable reporting it because you are unsure if you are correct or possibly mistaking the situation.  

Listen to this episode of Thrive Unafraid to learn how to:

  • Determine if you’re being stalked
  • Steps to take if you’re being stalked
  • Where to go for help if you’re being stalked or simply feel uneasy about a situation
  • How to recognize warning signs and trust your instincts
  • How to confront a stalker safely

Kelly shares stories from women who have confided in her about their stalking experiences, how they handled the situation, and Kelly shares further expertise and insight on how to safely interact with a potential stalker or when to skip straight to the authorities.

Gain the confidence to Live Life Unafraid with situational awareness and personal safety guidance from this episode. 

Ready to join the conversation?  

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 1

Episode #1: Dissecting the “Good Guy” Excuse

Welcome to the Thrive Unafraid podcast! In their premier episode,  Kelly and Doug tackle the “good guy” excuse. When is someone’s bad behavior forgivable, and what’s your responsibility when it comes to communicating what you’re not okay with?
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In this episode, Doug and I are discussing the Good Guy Excuse. I came across an article in Harvard Business Review back in August of 2022. The title is, “Stop Protecting Good Guys”, and we’ll link the article in the episode key that you’ll be able to download from the Diamond Arrow group.com website, so you can go check out the article for yourself.

My first reaction when I heard that was, “What? No, we need all the good guys we can get in society!” That was my initial thought. As I read the article, I realized what they were actually trying to say, and some of my initial thoughts were, I had done a post called “the every man”, and I switched it up with what has been said-and I don’t know if it’s an actual quote or not, but every woman you know has either experienced a sexual assault or knows someone who has experienced a sexual assault or almost experienced a sexual assault.

What I had done was I switched it and said, every man you know has committed sexual assault, or knows someone who’s committed sexual assault, or has almost committed sexual assault. And I remember when I created that, that switched up meme, I got the sweats. Thinking about posting that to the Diamond Arrow Group social feeds, because I was like, are people gonna understand? Are people going to…how are they gonna react? Then I had to second guess and say, is that true? And of course, I asked my husband, would this resonate with you? He’s law enforcement, so he is like, you can’t really count me. I know lots of people who have.

But the reaction to it was really interesting and we can get into that later. Good guys are not immune to bad behaviors, so there’s that piece. And I also thought women are not immune to this protective, albeit dismissive excuse either. How about you, Doug? What were some of your initial thoughts?

(laughing) Well, it’s interesting. I hadn’t read it until just recently when you sent it over to me to take a look at, and the first thing that came to mind is, it’s interesting how we use language. You know, to frame discussions, right? Because on one level, everybody wants to be a good guy, but nobody defines what a good guy is. So the language, it matters in this, the article is talking primarily about sexual harassment. Although it gives an example of sexism in the workplace, but the focus is on primarily sexual harassment.

At the end of the day, it’s all about excusing poor behavior under one of a number of guises. I found it interesting. I went and sat down with my daughters to talk through some of this as well and to get their view on it. I wanted to ask them, what’s the counterpart to a good guy? Is it a bad boy? Right? And so what is that language and how do we land there? And what does that mean?

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