Episode 17

Episode 17

by | Sep 6, 2023 | Podcast

Episode #17: The Misconceptions of Violence and Self-Defense with Wim Demeere

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Depictions of self-defense and violence in TV and film naturally give us a sense of safety and reassurance that the bad guy will lose and that you should always take a criminal head on. Unfortunately, the theatrics of it all have given men (and women) a false look at self-defense. In this week’s episode, Kelly and Doug speak with martial arts and self-defense expert, Wim Demeere, and reference Wim’s widely-shared self defense blog post Self-defense tips for men. Together they discuss the complexities behind self-defense including: taking ownership over your actions, the importance of leaving your ego at the door, and de-escalating tense situations before violence occurs. 

For more of Wim’s instructional self-defense content, check out his Patreon site, updated monthly. There are over a thousand posts and hundreds of videos as he’s been doing this for over five years now. There is something at a price point for everybody and you can try it for free for a week.

Other topics we discussed:

  • Negative effects of romanticism of violence in TV and film
  • How to not let your ego affect your decisions in conflict
  • Understanding the distinctions between social and criminal violence
  • Defining your mission before conflict ever arises
  • Deescalation tactics for when a conflict occurs 
  • The importance of self-awareness and ownership in conflict
  • How to face threats from other individuals (Peyton Quinn’s Rules)
  • Why a face-saving exit in conflict isn’t the safest option
  • The Highway of Violence

Wim Demeere has almost 40 years of training in several martial arts and self-defense systems: Kung Fu, Tai Chi Chuan, Sanshou, muay Thai, MMA, etc. 

He has been a full-time personal trainer since 1994, has occasionally worked as a bouncer, and in his words, he had a non-eventful military service. Wim has been a national champion Quinda multiple times, and won a bronze medal at 1993 Wushu World Championships Sanshou (-90Kg). Wim has shared his knowledge with thousands of people as the author of numerous instructional books, self-defense videos, and his podcast  titled, Wim Demeere’s Podcast. He is the owner and writer of one of the oldest martial arts and self-defense blogs, Wimsblog.com.

Connect with Wim:

Website: https://wimsblog.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ptccm 

IG:  @wimdemeere 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WimDemeerePage

Check out the blog post referenced in this video: https://wimsblog.com/2013/04/self-defense-tips-for-men/ 

 Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

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You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 17

Episode 16

by | Aug 14, 2023 | Podcast

Episode #16: Assault Prevention, Creating Boundaries, and Living Without Limits | Nicole Snell

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Trying to find a woman who has not found themselves in a dangerous or unwarranted encounter is harder than finding someone who has. That is one of the many reasons this episode with Nicole Snell, an outdoor-loving, self-defense expert, is so crucial. Alongside Kelly and Doug, Nicole discusses what it means to hone your intuition and assess or de-escalate potential threats in any situation. Nicole also shares her thoughts around the importance of situational awareness, establishing boundaries, and the belief that all women and girls should live without limits despite perceived danger. 

 Other topics we discussed:

  • Fear as a tool, not an enemy
  • The benefits of developing a toolkit versus just ‘safety tips’ for personal safety
  • Assessing Nicole’s personal self-defense encounters and how she chose to react
  • How to establish boundaries when approached or caught off-guard in public
  • Criticism that women face in the aftermath of negative situations
  • Outdoor defense and safety
  • Feeling empowered to live without limitations

 Nicole Snell is an award winning international speaker, trainer, and self-defense expert specializing in sexual assault prevention education, gender-based violence prevention, and boundaries. Despite her successful 12-year career in TV, she always felt a pull to give back to women. Through connections she developed partnering with a women’s self-defense group she worked with in college, Nicole was introduced to Girls Fight Back. She is now the CEO of Girls Fight Back, Founder of Outdoor Defense, and Lead Instructor with both IMPACT Personal Safety and IMPACT Global. Nicole speaks to gender inclusive groups at colleges, high schools, the US Military, Fortune 500 companies, corporations, outdoor groups, and more both domestically and abroad.  She is an NACP Credentialed Victim Advocate and a credentialed Empowerment Self-Defense Professional. Her programs are evidence-based, trauma-informed, interactive, and inclusive. Nicole believes that everyone has the right to walk through the world feeling safe, powerful and confident.

 

Connect with Nicole:

 Website: Nicolesnell.com

Girls Fight Back: Girlsfightback.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/nicolesnelloutdoordefense

IG: @adventuresofnik & @girlsfightback 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/girlsfightback

Twitter: @girlsfightback

Check out the IG posts mentioned in this episode:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CqblSQtLhl4/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CurXz-OAxhM/

Nicole’s Virtual Class with Backcountry Women: https://backcountrywomen.com/event-5210807

August 30th, 2023

$65 for members, $75 for non-members

Note: The live event will be recorded and everyone who registers will have one week to watch the recording.

 

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

 Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

 Please click ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’ on your favorite podcast platform, and we’d love to hear what you think is the best piece of advice you’ve heard on the podcast to-date in a Review on your podcast platform!

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Episode 14

by | Jul 17, 2023 | Podcast

Episode #14: Don’t Travel Again Before You Hear These CRITICAL Personal Safety Tips

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Have you ever thought to ask a hotel check-in clerk NOT to tell you your room number out loud?  Did you know Sudafed is an illegal drug in Japan that will get you major jail time?  Join Kelly, Doug, and Ron Tetreau this week as they discuss top travel safety tips to keep you safe whether you’re a solo traveler or have a family or friends to protect.  This one is chock full of specific tips to keep you and your data safe and secure throughout the entire trip.

Scroll down to download the newly released “Traveler Safety Guide: with Security Tips for Travelers”!


Ron shares stories of how he, his friends, and colleagues keep safe while traveling, as well as how he prepared his daughter for overseas solo travel.  He criticizes some commonly recommended hotel safety advice, and discusses alternative options with Kelly and Doug.

Don’t miss out on advice on:

  • Hotel door safety (including why/when not to bar yourself in)
  • Be careful where you charge your electronics
  • Situational awareness in unfamiliar environments and cultures
  • Hotel check-in safety practices
  • The Rule of Stupids while traveling
  • Considerations of dress when traveling
  • The Gray Man Theory

Ron Tetreau is a retired police Detective from the City of Woonsocket, Rhode Island. Serving 24 years as a Law Enforcement Officer and is also a 38-year veteran of both the United States Air Force and the United States Army, he is currently a MSG in the US Army Reserves. He is a graduate of Roger Williams University holding a BS Degree in Criminal Justice and is currently pursuing a graduate degree in Terrorism and Counter Terrorism Studies. As a police officer, he served on the SWAT Team for more than 16 years as the Training Coordinator as well as serving as both an Assault Team Leader and Sniper Team Leader participating and leading operations including Barricaded Subjects, High Risk Warrants, Drug Interdiction Operations. He was also a member of the State of Rhode Island Homeland Security Weapons of Mass Destruction Team serving on the Assault Element. He was a guest instructor at the FBI Law Enforcement Sniper School and served as a liaison to Joint Special Operations Command as a Guest Instructor at the FBI Sniper School. As a member of the 1996 Summer Olympics Security Team he was assigned to the Personal Security Detail at the Soccer Venue at the University of Georgia.

Connect with Ron:

Website: http://asymmetrictraining.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/asymmetrictraining/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ron-tetreau-b25ab015/

Email: info@asymmetrictraining.com

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 11

by | Jun 5, 2023 | Podcast

Episode #11: Boss-level Mindset, Self-Esteem, and Communication Inside and Outside the Workplace with Dr. Mary Beth

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One of the most frustrating parts of office culture in the United States is that often, as a woman, you are painted negatively for exerting the same level of assertiveness as your male counterpart no matter where in the chain of command you fall or your distinctive experience. 

This week we are joined by Dr. Mary Beth Wilkas Janke, a former US Secret Service Agent, an author and speaker, self-esteem mentor, and Dr. of Clinical Psychology.  Dr. Mary Beth has devoted her life to teaching women how to defy the odds and win in a world full of challenges, risks, and pitfalls.

In this episode of Thrive Unafraid, Doug, Kelly, and Dr. Janke deconstruct:

  • Should women get special treatment just for being women when considered for jobs, promotions, or awards?
  • Mindset versus application: Can you practice self-awareness while not respecting others’ boundaries?
  • The importance of strong and consistent workplace habits for women
  • Factors to be aware of in office communication between males and females
  • What is a self-esteem mentor and the effects of raised self-esteem in women
  • The importance of stress management on your mental and physical health
  • Application of Cooper’s Color Codes

Dr. Janke shares stories of her own experiences as she redefined what it means to be a successful woman, leader, and badass in a historically male-dominated profession.

Walk away with practical tips to positively change important relationships in your own life, and take hold of your own destiny. 

Video on How to Live a Badass Life, including the challenge at the end: https://youtu.be/2T08Z5dYChk

Check out Dr. Mary Beth’s book: The Protector

Ready to join the conversation?  

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 9

by | May 1, 2023 | Podcast

Episode #9: How to Recognize and React to Stalking Behaviors

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Being stalked is no joke, and in this episode Kelly and Doug dig into controversial topics related to stalking.  What exactly constitutes stalking?  Are there differences in how men and women should and do react to stalking?  How do you stop stalking behavior once you’ve recognized it?  What resources are available to you if you’re unsure you’re being stalked but feel uncomfortable?  And what is the role of intent when talking about stalking behavior?

Scroll down for this week’s Episode Key.  You’ll find all of the mentioned links, articles, daily habits, and other tips and tricks in there. 

It is far too common an occurrence to feel that “off” feeling in your gut or suspect someone might be following you on the streets or maybe stalking you online, but also feel uncomfortable reporting it because you are unsure if you are correct or possibly mistaking the situation.  

Listen to this episode of Thrive Unafraid to learn how to:

  • Determine if you’re being stalked
  • Steps to take if you’re being stalked
  • Where to go for help if you’re being stalked or simply feel uneasy about a situation
  • How to recognize warning signs and trust your instincts
  • How to confront a stalker safely

Kelly shares stories from women who have confided in her about their stalking experiences, how they handled the situation, and Kelly shares further expertise and insight on how to safely interact with a potential stalker or when to skip straight to the authorities.

Gain the confidence to Live Life Unafraid with situational awareness and personal safety guidance from this episode. 

Ready to join the conversation?  

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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