Episode 21

Episode #21: The Frog in the Pot: Stalking, Domestic Violence, & Personal Safety with Rachael Frost

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Let’s delve into the dark and often misunderstood world of stalking.  Rachael Frost, an expert in threat assessment and safety planning, joins Kelly and Doug to shed light on this dark and often misunderstood world. Prepare to be empowered with insights that transform your understanding of safety, highlight the signs and dangers, and help protect you or someone you care about.

In under 1 hour, you’ll learn:

  • Insights on the psychology of stalkers and their patterns of behavior.
  • The different manifestations of stalking that can take place.
  • Understanding the different types of stalkers and their motivations.
  • The role of technology in stalking, including cyberstalking and online harassment.
  • Self-prioritization in the context of online dating safety.
  • How to document incidents and collect evidentiary support.
  • The nuances of stalking cases, including the challenge of identifying subtle signs.
  • Safety planning advice and the importance of being prepared for various scenarios.
  • The increased danger in cases of intimate partner stalking due to the intimacy effect.
  • The power of seeking support from victim advocacy centers and understanding available resources.

Rachael Frost is a respected authority in threat assessment and safety planning, bringing her extensive knowledge to help individuals navigate the complex world of stalking and domestic violence. With a background in law enforcement and a deep understanding of criminal psychology, she sheds light on the hidden threat of stalking and the crucial steps to protect yourself or someone you care about. Rachael’s expertise and dedication to enhancing public awareness and safety make her a valuable resource in the realm of stalking prevention and support.

Connect with Rachael:

Website: https://frosticed.com/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frost.iced/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/violenceresponseexperts/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachael-frost-701741196/

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.     

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Episode 20

Episode #20: Online Dating Safety: Protecting Your Heart and Wallet with Jane Mason

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Do you or someone you know ever dabbled in the world of online dating, hoping to find love or companionship? In a digital age where connection seems just a swipe away, the risks associated with online dating have increased significantly. This episode dives deep into the world of online dating, scams, and how you can safeguard yourself or your loved ones from heartbreak and financial loss.

Kelly and Doug welcome Jane Mason, a former FBI Special Agent who brings her extensive knowledge of criminal psychology and fraud investigations into the realm of online dating. They uncover the truth about common romance scams, warning signs to look out for, and share essential tips to protect yourself and those close to you. While exploring the world of online dating, the conversation takes a profound turn, covering critical topics such as personal information safety, drink spiking, and the power of self-prioritization. Jane’s insights provide invaluable guidance for anyone entering the online dating landscape.

You’ll learn:

  • How to safeguard your personal information when venturing into the world of online dating.
  • How to code words for discreetly asking for help during in-person meetings.
  • Recognizing the telltale signs of drink spiking and the immediate actions to take for your safety.
  • The art of projecting a strong, confident presence to reduce the likelihood of becoming a target.
  • The psychology behind online scams and catfishing.
  • Conducting comprehensive research before engaging with potential dates.
  • The potential future of dating apps and how regulation may affect their operation.
  • The interplay of behavior in the dating world and how to focus on these behaviors to ensure safety.
  • Common online dating scams and red flags to watch out for.

Jane Mason is a former FBI Special Agent with a wealth of experience in criminal psychology and fraud investigations. Throughout her career, she has dedicated herself to unraveling complex cases and understanding the motivations behind criminals’ actions. Her unique insights have been instrumental in numerous cases, and she is known for her contributions to the field of criminal justice.  She has received recognition for her work in the FBI and her contributions to public awareness of safety and fraud prevention in various online platforms. Her upcoming “Dating Safety Bootcamp” showcases her commitment to helping individuals navigate the world of online dating safely and confidently. Jane’s expertise, career accomplishments, and dedication to educating the public make her a trusted source in the realm of online safety and security.

Connect with Jane:

Website: https://www.janexfbi.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janexfbi/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janexfbi

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janexfbi/

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.     

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Episode 17

Episode 17

Episode #17: The Misconceptions of Violence and Self-Defense with Wim Demeere

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Depictions of self-defense and violence in TV and film naturally give us a sense of safety and reassurance that the bad guy will lose and that you should always take a criminal head on. Unfortunately, the theatrics of it all have given men (and women) a false look at self-defense. In this week’s episode, Kelly and Doug speak with martial arts and self-defense expert, Wim Demeere, and reference Wim’s widely-shared self defense blog post Self-defense tips for men. Together they discuss the complexities behind self-defense including: taking ownership over your actions, the importance of leaving your ego at the door, and de-escalating tense situations before violence occurs. 

For more of Wim’s instructional self-defense content, check out his Patreon site, updated monthly. There are over a thousand posts and hundreds of videos as he’s been doing this for over five years now. There is something at a price point for everybody and you can try it for free for a week.

Other topics we discussed:

  • Negative effects of romanticism of violence in TV and film
  • How to not let your ego affect your decisions in conflict
  • Understanding the distinctions between social and criminal violence
  • Defining your mission before conflict ever arises
  • Deescalation tactics for when a conflict occurs 
  • The importance of self-awareness and ownership in conflict
  • How to face threats from other individuals (Peyton Quinn’s Rules)
  • Why a face-saving exit in conflict isn’t the safest option
  • The Highway of Violence

Wim Demeere has almost 40 years of training in several martial arts and self-defense systems: Kung Fu, Tai Chi Chuan, Sanshou, muay Thai, MMA, etc. 

He has been a full-time personal trainer since 1994, has occasionally worked as a bouncer, and in his words, he had a non-eventful military service. Wim has been a national champion Quinda multiple times, and won a bronze medal at 1993 Wushu World Championships Sanshou (-90Kg). Wim has shared his knowledge with thousands of people as the author of numerous instructional books, self-defense videos, and his podcast  titled, Wim Demeere’s Podcast. He is the owner and writer of one of the oldest martial arts and self-defense blogs, Wimsblog.com.

Connect with Wim:

Website: https://wimsblog.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ptccm 

IG@wimdemeere 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WimDemeerePage

Check out the blog post referenced in this video: https://wimsblog.com/2013/04/self-defense-tips-for-men/ 

 Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

 Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 17

Episode 16

Episode #16: Assault Prevention, Creating Boundaries, and Living Without Limits | Nicole Snell

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Trying to find a woman who has not found themselves in a dangerous or unwarranted encounter is harder than finding someone who has. That is one of the many reasons this episode with Nicole Snell, an outdoor-loving, self-defense expert, is so crucial. Alongside Kelly and Doug, Nicole discusses what it means to hone your intuition and assess or de-escalate potential threats in any situation. Nicole also shares her thoughts around the importance of situational awareness, establishing boundaries, and the belief that all women and girls should live without limits despite perceived danger. 

 Other topics we discussed:

  • Fear as a tool, not an enemy
  • The benefits of developing a toolkit versus just ‘safety tips’ for personal safety
  • Assessing Nicole’s personal self-defense encounters and how she chose to react
  • How to establish boundaries when approached or caught off-guard in public
  • Criticism that women face in the aftermath of negative situations
  • Outdoor defense and safety
  • Feeling empowered to live without limitations

 Nicole Snell is an award winning international speaker, trainer, and self-defense expert specializing in sexual assault prevention education, gender-based violence prevention, and boundaries. Despite her successful 12-year career in TV, she always felt a pull to give back to women. Through connections she developed partnering with a women’s self-defense group she worked with in college, Nicole was introduced to Girls Fight Back. She is now the CEO of Girls Fight Back, Founder of Outdoor Defense, and Lead Instructor with both IMPACT Personal Safety and IMPACT Global. Nicole speaks to gender inclusive groups at colleges, high schools, the US Military, Fortune 500 companies, corporations, outdoor groups, and more both domestically and abroad.  She is an NACP Credentialed Victim Advocate and a credentialed Empowerment Self-Defense Professional. Her programs are evidence-based, trauma-informed, interactive, and inclusive. Nicole believes that everyone has the right to walk through the world feeling safe, powerful and confident.

 

Connect with Nicole:

 Website: Nicolesnell.com

Girls Fight Back: Girlsfightback.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/nicolesnelloutdoordefense

IG: @adventuresofnik & @girlsfightback 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/girlsfightback

Twitter: @girlsfightback

Check out the IG posts mentioned in this episode:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CqblSQtLhl4/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CurXz-OAxhM/

Nicole’s Virtual Class with Backcountry Women: https://backcountrywomen.com/event-5210807

August 30th, 2023

$65 for members, $75 for non-members

Note: The live event will be recorded and everyone who registers will have one week to watch the recording.

 

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

 Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

 Please click ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’ on your favorite podcast platform, and we’d love to hear what you think is the best piece of advice you’ve heard on the podcast to-date in a Review on your podcast platform!

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Episode 17

Episode 14

Episode #14: Don’t Travel Again Before You Hear These CRITICAL Personal Safety Tips

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Have you ever thought to ask a hotel check-in clerk NOT to tell you your room number out loud?  Did you know Sudafed is an illegal drug in Japan that will get you major jail time?  Join Kelly, Doug, and Ron Tetreau this week as they discuss top travel safety tips to keep you safe whether you’re a solo traveler or have a family or friends to protect.  This one is chock full of specific tips to keep you and your data safe and secure throughout the entire trip.

Scroll down to download the newly released “Traveler Safety Guide: with Security Tips for Travelers”!


Ron shares stories of how he, his friends, and colleagues keep safe while traveling, as well as how he prepared his daughter for overseas solo travel.  He criticizes some commonly recommended hotel safety advice, and discusses alternative options with Kelly and Doug.

Don’t miss out on advice on:

  • Hotel door safety (including why/when not to bar yourself in)
  • Be careful where you charge your electronics
  • Situational awareness in unfamiliar environments and cultures
  • Hotel check-in safety practices
  • The Rule of Stupids while traveling
  • Considerations of dress when traveling
  • The Gray Man Theory

Ron Tetreau is a retired police Detective from the City of Woonsocket, Rhode Island. Serving 24 years as a Law Enforcement Officer and is also a 38-year veteran of both the United States Air Force and the United States Army, he is currently a MSG in the US Army Reserves. He is a graduate of Roger Williams University holding a BS Degree in Criminal Justice and is currently pursuing a graduate degree in Terrorism and Counter Terrorism Studies. As a police officer, he served on the SWAT Team for more than 16 years as the Training Coordinator as well as serving as both an Assault Team Leader and Sniper Team Leader participating and leading operations including Barricaded Subjects, High Risk Warrants, Drug Interdiction Operations. He was also a member of the State of Rhode Island Homeland Security Weapons of Mass Destruction Team serving on the Assault Element. He was a guest instructor at the FBI Law Enforcement Sniper School and served as a liaison to Joint Special Operations Command as a Guest Instructor at the FBI Sniper School. As a member of the 1996 Summer Olympics Security Team he was assigned to the Personal Security Detail at the Soccer Venue at the University of Georgia.

Connect with Ron:

Website: http://asymmetrictraining.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/asymmetrictraining/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ron-tetreau-b25ab015/

Email: info@asymmetrictraining.com

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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