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Episode 11

Episode #11: Boss-level Mindset, Self-Esteem, and Communication Inside and Outside the Workplace with Dr. Mary Beth

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One of the most frustrating parts of office culture in the United States is that often, as a woman, you are painted negatively for exerting the same level of assertiveness as your male counterpart no matter where in the chain of command you fall or your distinctive experience. 

This week we are joined by Dr. Mary Beth Wilkas Janke, a former US Secret Service Agent, an author and speaker, self-esteem mentor, and Dr. of Clinical Psychology.  Dr. Mary Beth has devoted her life to teaching women how to defy the odds and win in a world full of challenges, risks, and pitfalls.

In this episode of Thrive Unafraid, Doug, Kelly, and Dr. Janke deconstruct:

  • Should women get special treatment just for being women when considered for jobs, promotions, or awards?
  • Mindset versus application: Can you practice self-awareness while not respecting others’ boundaries?
  • The importance of strong and consistent workplace habits for women
  • Factors to be aware of in office communication between males and females
  • What is a self-esteem mentor and the effects of raised self-esteem in women
  • The importance of stress management on your mental and physical health
  • Application of Cooper’s Color Codes

Dr. Janke shares stories of her own experiences as she redefined what it means to be a successful woman, leader, and badass in a historically male-dominated profession.

Walk away with practical tips to positively change important relationships in your own life, and take hold of your own destiny. 

Video on How to Live a Badass Life, including the challenge at the end: https://youtu.be/2T08Z5dYChk

Check out Dr. Mary Beth’s book: The Protector

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Episode 9

Episode 9

Episode #9: How to Recognize and React to Stalking Behaviors

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Being stalked is no joke, and in this episode Kelly and Doug dig into controversial topics related to stalking.  What exactly constitutes stalking?  Are there differences in how men and women should and do react to stalking?  How do you stop stalking behavior once you’ve recognized it?  What resources are available to you if you’re unsure you’re being stalked but feel uncomfortable?  And what is the role of intent when talking about stalking behavior?

Scroll down for this week’s Episode Key.  You’ll find all of the mentioned links, articles, daily habits, and other tips and tricks in there. 

It is far too common an occurrence to feel that “off” feeling in your gut or suspect someone might be following you on the streets or maybe stalking you online, but also feel uncomfortable reporting it because you are unsure if you are correct or possibly mistaking the situation.  

Listen to this episode of Thrive Unafraid to learn how to:

  • Determine if you’re being stalked
  • Steps to take if you’re being stalked
  • Where to go for help if you’re being stalked or simply feel uneasy about a situation
  • How to recognize warning signs and trust your instincts
  • How to confront a stalker safely

Kelly shares stories from women who have confided in her about their stalking experiences, how they handled the situation, and Kelly shares further expertise and insight on how to safely interact with a potential stalker or when to skip straight to the authorities.

Gain the confidence to Live Life Unafraid with situational awareness and personal safety guidance from this episode. 

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You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 7

Episode #7: Common Manipulation Tactics: Are You Being Emotionally Manipulated? with Guest Justin Black

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Do you ever wonder if someone you care about or interact with often is manipulating you?  This week Kelly and Doug are joined by Justin Black to discuss common manipulation tactics, how to identify them, and how to address this behavior.

Click here to download the Guide to Identify the 12 Most Common Manipulation Tactics.  

Justin Black is the man behind the Spycraft 101 podcast, blog, and wildly popular Instagram account, where he teaches about the history of clandestine operations to history lovers, covert ops junkies, patriots, weapons & gadgets enthusiasts, the safety savvy, and the personal-security conscious.  He’s also highly trained in human intelligence and he came onto Thrive Unafraid to discuss threats and human behavior.

Kelly, Doug, and Justin discussed:

  • Common manipulation tactics
  • Is all manipulation bad/wrong?
  • The morality of gaslighting
  • A breakdown on manners
  • Listening to the voice inside you
  • Reading body language and non-verbal cues
  • People-watching to learn tells

Justin also shares enthralling stories about CIA and British Special Operations agents using manipulation tactics in their work or to survive capture.

Join us to learn more about how to keep yourself and your loved ones safe from manipulation in your home, at work, or in public.

Ready to join the conversation?  

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You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 6

Episode #6: When Your Gut Raises the Alarm

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Learn to avoid dangerous situations, how to assess risks and how to react if danger does arise by yourself or with your loved ones.  In this episode, Doug and Kelly discuss the experience of a mom whose gut raised the alarm in a large parking lot with her child.  

Click here to download Kelly’s Boundaries Workbook. Her comprehensive approach helps you take charge of your own personal safety so that you can better protect yourself in any situation.

Learn to:

  • Identify potential threats 
  • Enact physical awareness 
  • Pay attention to your surroundings 
  • Avoid distractions 
  • Create an escape plan, if needed 

They also touch on:

  • Knowing basic self-defense techniques 
  • Trusting your instincts 
  • Personal safety devices 
  • Tips for building situational awareness

Explore the importance of having real conversations about safety and discover practical methods to ensure that you are living in a secure environment. Tune in to learn expert tips on how to courageously move forward confidently in all aspects of life, no matter your current circumstances.

 

Ready to join the conversation?  

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon – your intuition.    

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Episode 1

Episode #1: Dissecting the “Good Guy” Excuse

Welcome to the Thrive Unafraid podcast! In their premier episode,  Kelly and Doug tackle the “good guy” excuse. When is someone’s bad behavior forgivable, and what’s your responsibility when it comes to communicating what you’re not okay with?
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In this episode, Doug and I are discussing the Good Guy Excuse. I came across an article in Harvard Business Review back in August of 2022. The title is, “Stop Protecting Good Guys”, and we’ll link the article in the episode key that you’ll be able to download from the Diamond Arrow group.com website, so you can go check out the article for yourself.

My first reaction when I heard that was, “What? No, we need all the good guys we can get in society!” That was my initial thought. As I read the article, I realized what they were actually trying to say, and some of my initial thoughts were, I had done a post called “the every man”, and I switched it up with what has been said-and I don’t know if it’s an actual quote or not, but every woman you know has either experienced a sexual assault or knows someone who has experienced a sexual assault or almost experienced a sexual assault.

What I had done was I switched it and said, every man you know has committed sexual assault, or knows someone who’s committed sexual assault, or has almost committed sexual assault. And I remember when I created that, that switched up meme, I got the sweats. Thinking about posting that to the Diamond Arrow Group social feeds, because I was like, are people gonna understand? Are people going to…how are they gonna react? Then I had to second guess and say, is that true? And of course, I asked my husband, would this resonate with you? He’s law enforcement, so he is like, you can’t really count me. I know lots of people who have.

But the reaction to it was really interesting and we can get into that later. Good guys are not immune to bad behaviors, so there’s that piece. And I also thought women are not immune to this protective, albeit dismissive excuse either. How about you, Doug? What were some of your initial thoughts?

(laughing) Well, it’s interesting. I hadn’t read it until just recently when you sent it over to me to take a look at, and the first thing that came to mind is, it’s interesting how we use language. You know, to frame discussions, right? Because on one level, everybody wants to be a good guy, but nobody defines what a good guy is. So the language, it matters in this, the article is talking primarily about sexual harassment. Although it gives an example of sexism in the workplace, but the focus is on primarily sexual harassment.

At the end of the day, it’s all about excusing poor behavior under one of a number of guises. I found it interesting. I went and sat down with my daughters to talk through some of this as well and to get their view on it. I wanted to ask them, what’s the counterpart to a good guy? Is it a bad boy? Right? And so what is that language and how do we land there? And what does that mean?

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