Men Just Don’t Understand
They Have the Knowledge
Over the last two years, I’ve had numerous conversations with male experts in the fields of personal safety, self-defense, and protection. Every one of them has a vast wealth of knowledge on the subjects and want to help women learn how to improve their personal safety skills.
And each one of them ends the conversation with, “but I’m not a woman so I admit I can never completely understand the unique viewpoint of a woman.”
They want to help women and teach them the skills and give them the tools to be safer in their daily lives, but they know it sounds different coming from a man.
It’s not a myth, it’s a fact.
Maybe you’ve read this article from Huffington Post regarding the things women do and think about before simply going for a run.
Maybe you’ve seen this Facebook post that went viral last year with over 560K shares talking about the things men and women do to prevent a sexual assault.
I’m not saying ALL men are oblivious to the things women think about before walking out their door every day. In fact, there are a lot of men who “get it” and want to help. However, they know they can be intimidating to women and cause triggered emotions, so they sit in silent frustration not knowing how to reach all women. Especially the women who really want the training and don’t know where to start.
What Are You Waiting For?
So, where does that leave you? Hopefully not just sticking your head in the sand and pretending “it will never happen to me.” If you’ve ever uttered the words, “but I live in a safe neighborhood” or “I don’t go to places where stuff like that happens” or “my husband/boyfriend/significant other knows all that stuff, so I don’t need to”.
Please take a moment to ask yourself, what would you do IF something happened to you.
You’ve probably heard it before, victims of crimes didn’t start their day thinking it would happen to them. No one plans to be attacked or victimized. So, what are you doing to prepare in case something happens?
You Can Do This!
You can start with taking the first step. Ask yourself the following questions (don’t speed read them either!). After reading a question, close your eyes and mentally picture the scenario in your head and how you would react.
What would you do…?
…if someone broke into your home while you were there?
…if you heard gunshots while you were grocery shopping?
…if you realized you were being followed?
…if a guy is getting in your personal space and won’t leave you alone?
Your Life Matters
You have value. You have worth. Your safety is paramount and if you have kids, you want to protect them as well. Take the initiative to invest in improving your personal safety skills. Look for class offerings in your area and get signed up.
The Diamond Arrow Group offers in-person classes on Situational Awareness. If you don’t live in our area, you can purchase the Situational Awareness and Intuition online training so you can learn tips & tricks from the comfort of your own home. Research and find self-defense classes near you that you can take. If you want guidance on where to go for those classes, send me an email. I’m happy to help.
I will refer you to people who can help you and won’t make you feel silly or stupid for asking the questions on your mind.
“I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand.”
-Susan B. Anthony